Search this site
This form does not yet contain any fields.
    Articles by Subject

    Entries in funeral meals (1)


    Another Passage

    Another ending.  Well, a beginning for the one who has left us here.  Another ending, meaning, “So ends this life, May 31, 2011”.  Ending this earthly life to begin eternal life.

    GB’s stepfather passed away around midnight, at his home in Texas.  Is it true, the old saying?  “Death always comes in threes?”  Is it death, or is it just trouble, or general sorrow?  Can’t remember right now.  I don’t put much stock in ‘old sayings’, nor in ‘old wives’ tales’.  However, we will be going to a second funeral, less than two weeks after the first one.  And both close family members.  We experienced something of that last year.  GB’s uncle’s funeral was one day, and his aunt’s was the next.  They were brother-in-law and sister-in-law.

    Aldo and Dorothy were married 26 years.  She lost her first husband to cancer, GB’s dad.  Aldo suffered with many medical maladies, but died peacefully and painlessly.  A blessing for him, and for those who sat with him.  He gave our sons their first computer, a Commodore 64.  A popular computer these days, for those who can find them.  The boys programmed everything on that computer and learned so much.  Being from Argentina, Aldo exposed them, and us, to the wonderful Latin culture.  We have several great recipes he shared, full of fresh ingredients.  His mother was a fine cook, by all accounts, and we were glad to have met her over one Christmas.

    Shortly after they married, he became an American citizen, which made him proud.  Our sister-in-law cross-stitched a commemoration and he kept it, always, in the study.  Aldo loved to watch Jeopardy, and Spanish television.  He worked with the library as an English-Spanish translator; he loved to read and tinker around in his shop.

    Death is part of our life.  Meaning, we will experience the death of others and we should be preparing for our own.  We should not shy away from those facts, and we should share them with our children and grandchildren.  Families need to experience happy events together, and they should gather to say farewell to loved ones.  Children should be included, as is appropriate.  Meals taken together, conversation, sharing burdens - these are part of our living.  And part of how we face death.


    It is the will of God and Nature that these mortal bodies be laid aside, when the soul is to enter into real life; ‘tis rather an embrio state, a preparation for living; a man is not completely born until he be dead:  Why then should we grieve that a new child is born among the immortals? 

                                                                                                                                 ~Benjamin Franklin, 22 February 1756